Unforgiveness – The Poison

Unforgiveness the Major Struggle

Unforgiveness is something many of us struggle with, many times we feel it’s unfair to forgive another and we keep the grudge and bitterness. Unfortunately, scientific research shows that bitterness is real poison in our bodies.

Unforgiveness is the act of holding a grudge or refusing to forgive someone who has wronged you. Bitterness is a feeling of resentment or hostility towards someone or something. Anger is an intense emotion that can arise when we feel threatened or frustrated.

When we hold onto these negative emotions, our bodies respond with stress. Stress triggers the release of hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline, which can increase blood pressure, heart rate, and cause inflammation in the body. Chronic stress can also weaken our immune system, making us more susceptible to illness.

I have experienced bitterness and anger, and it feels like someone is literally stubbing my heart, the pain is real. With time, I have come to the awareness that holding on to the pain only made me feel worse, I learnt some tools that helped me let go the bitterness.  Through forgiveness and self-reflection, I was able to release my negative emotions and improve my physical and mental health. I began to see the world in a more positive light and formed new, meaningful connections with myself and others.

My Therapy Room

When I sit in my therapy room with my clients and listen to them, their biggest pain is bitterness the poison that is eating them alive and killing them slowly. Many people struggle with bitterness which has negative effects on their lives. As a therapist, I listen to my clients’ concerns and help them work through their emotions.

Bitterness can stem from a variety of experiences, such as betrayal, rejection, or loss. It can be difficult to let go of negative emotions, but holding onto bitterness can lead to physical and mental health problems, as well as strained relationships with others.

In therapy, I help my clients acknowledge their feelings of bitterness and explore the root causes of their emotions. I encourage them to practice forgiveness, which involves letting go of the anger and resentment they are holding onto towards others, sometimes even onto themselves. I acknowledge that forgiveness is not always easy, but its a powerful tool for healing, letting go and moving forward.

In addition to forgiveness, I work with my clients to find healthy ways to cope with their emotions, this is where I teach tools to help them release the hurt and  bitterness, from their lives. This might involve mindfulness exercises, journaling, or physical activity – dancing is so therapeutic. I also encourage them to find healthy outlets for their emotions, so they can release their negative energy and avoid the toxic effects of bitterness.

It’s important to remember that healing from bitterness takes time and patience. As a therapist, I provide a safe and supportive environment for my clients to work through their emotions and find a path towards healing and well-being.