A Dance with Emotions

September 29, 2023by Liz Uimbia0

Mastering The Art of Response

Ah, emotions. Those wonderful, turbulent, passionate, and sometimes overwhelmingly fierce waves that surge within us. I often find myself caught up in their riptide, being swept away before I even realize it. Can you relate? If you’ve ever instantly regretted something you said in the heat of the moment, welcome to the club!

See, the difference between reacting and responding is like the difference between a knee-jerk reflex and a well-executed dance move. Reacting is instinctual and quick, often led by our most immediate and raw feelings. Responding, on the other hand, is more like a dance – it requires grace, timing, and a bit of choreography.

Recently, I found myself mulling over my own behavior patterns. Have you ever had that uncomfortable realization where you notice that you’re becoming the very thing you don’t like in others? Yup, that was me. I’d observe loved ones around me react impulsively and think, “Gosh, why can’t they just calm down?” Only to later catch myself doing the exact same thing.

So, how can we shift from this immediate, sometimes destructive, impulse to a more thoughtful and harmonious response?

A Moment of Pause

The power lies in taking a breath. Literally and figuratively. Remember that bit about dancing? Think of the breath as the “1, 2” count before a dance step. It gives you that extra moment to decide your next move rather than stumbling forward.

I’ve started practicing this simple yet challenging technique: Whenever I feel that familiar rush of emotion, that urge to immediately react, I pause. I might excuse myself, step outside, or even just close my eyes for a brief moment. Anything to create a tiny pocket of space between stimulus and response.

Embrace Your Unique Human Superpower

Interestingly, our ability to respond thoughtfully is a defining human trait. Think about it – Response + Ability = Responsibility. While animals operate primarily on instinct, we humans have this magical gift of choice. It’s like having a superpower, but like all powers, it needs training and refinement.

The Power of Delayed Gratification

This isn’t about suppressing your emotions. Instead, it’s about giving them a proper outlet, a channel where they can flow without causing a tsunami. It’s the art of delayed gratification. Remember the marshmallow test? It’s like that, but with emotions.

Robert Greene puts it beautifully, “The longer you can resist reacting, the more mental space you will have for actual reflection and stronger your mind will become.”

So next time you find yourself on the brink of an emotional reaction, take a beat. Use that moment to decide: Will you let the waves pull you under, or will you choose to dance gracefully atop them? It’s a journey, and every step is a learning opportunity. So let’s keep dancing, one thoughtful response at a time.



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