In the vast tapestry of life, self-sabotage often manifests as the invisible chains that bind us, preventing us from reaching our fullest potential. It’s like being trapped in a cage of doubt and fear, unable to spread our wings and soar towards the life, love, and happiness we truly deserve.
Let me tell you about my client, a young woman named Shiku. She had dreams as big as the sky, but every time she tried to reach for them, something held her back. She would often find herself settling for less than she deserved because deep down, she didn’t believe she was worthy of anything better. Please note that the belief was in the subconscious, she was not aware. This belief, rooted in past regrets and a distorted perception of her own worth, became the breeding ground for self-sabotage in her life.
Shiku’s self-sabotage looked like choosing toxic relationships over healthy ones because she didn’t believe she deserved genuine love and respect. It looked like avoiding opportunities that could lead to success because she was afraid of failing and disappointing herself and others. And it looked like pushing away those who cared about her because she was terrified of being vulnerable and getting hurt.
As we went on with therapy Shiku’s eyes were open as she experienced a satori moment, she decided enough was enough. She realized that the only way to break free from the chains of self-sabotage was to cultivate self-love from within. It wasn’t an easy journey, but she knew it was worth it.
Shiku began by practicing mindfulness, learning to quiet the relentless chatter of self-doubt in her mind. She started to recognize her innate worth and value as a person, understanding that she deserved all the good things life had to offer. I walked with her on this journey where with each step she took towards self-awareness, she unearthed her patterns of self-sabotage and took proactive steps to counter them.
When Shiku caught herself overthinking every decision or settling for less than she deserved, she reminded herself of her worth. She learned to speak her truth, even if it meant risking hurting others’ feelings because she knew that living authentically was essential for her own happiness.
As Shiku continued on her journey to self-love, she found that the antidote of self-sabotage was indeed self-love itself. It meant loving herself enough to struggle, knowing that every challenge she faced was a step towards becoming the best version of herself.
So, my dear reader, if you find yourself trapped in the cycle of self-sabotage, know that you are not alone. You have the power within you to break free from those invisible chains and embrace a life filled with love, happiness, and fulfillment. It all starts with nurturing love for yourself, recognizing your innate worth, and practicing mindfulness every step of the way. Remember, you deserve nothing less than the very best that life has to offer.
I am here for you to walk with you this journey, please reach out.
